Is fear in the eye of the beholder?
It took me 3.5 hours to finish the ‘100 Cycle Challenge’ this morning and while I’m pleased with my time, I valued the 3.5 hours that I got to spend reflecting on my goals so much more.
I had time to think about my personal financial goals but also my goals for my studio and my clients. It was also a good distraction from my burning legs!
One thing I was reminded about when cycling was something a friend told me about goals: that we can never achieve them if we don’t manifest them. If we’re not constantly taking steps to reach our goals, they forever stay dreams, just out of reach.
A big reason for that is fear. Fear of failure or even fear of success. It can be overwhelming, even if there is no immediate threat of physical danger to ourselves or our loved ones.
I’m reminded of the acronym for F.E.A.R being False Evidence Appearing Real. Google says fear is something we fabricate in our own minds and pretend is real.
Sure. But try telling that to a teenager who has just awoken from a nightmare. Or a rational businesswoman in the middle of a panic attack. In the moment, fear is a very real emotion and not something we can will away just because it supposedly doesn’t exist. It can drive you insane, knock your productivity and, yes, certainly affect your ability to achieve your goals. As much as we try, fear can’t be rationalised away.
So, the best we can do, is find ways to cope with it, to manage it and to come out stronger on the other side. For me, that’s journalling, saying affirmations and reminding myself of everything I have to be grateful for. It’s easy to forget all our accomplishments when we’re worried about where the next pay cheque will come from or when we’re concerned about our family.
Journalling and reflecting doesn’t make the fear go away but it helps to put things into perspective. It also reminds me that I am brilliant and that I have achieved amazing things and that I can – and will – do it again. Why? Because I believe I can. And I believe you can, too.
I’d love to know how you deal with fear? How do you overcome it and move yourself forward and leave the past where it belongs – in the past?
Share your coping tactics and let’s help each other out!
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